As a child I was taught to put myself in other person,s shoes before reacting to anything .It has become such a habit that I have forgotten how it is to wear my own shoes .So now I often wonder whether it is such a good idea .As a child I never had fights coz I would see the other point of view .I wrote prize winning essays as I could see both points of view .But I never won a debate because I could not argue a point passionately.
But now that I hyave grown older and experienced I find that your ability to see the other point of view is taken as 1)y our weakness 2)as being 'tactful'( in a negative sense .)People can not believe that it is a genuine trait .Also it does not allow you to take a stand .So now I think you should put your self in other person .s shoes only if others also do it.
By the way now a days I find I am wearing two pairs of shoes -my Maa in law,s and my daughter in law.s .and I find I have no time to wear my own .